Helping without judgment

Since beginning my work with HOPE Hospitality and Warming Center, I have become particularly sensitive to judgmental points of view regarding the difficult life circumstances some individuals face on a regular basis. I had not previously noticed how frequently people--including some whom I greatly respect--make comments implying that because certain conditions of suffering are at least partially the result of poor decision-making on the part of the sufferer, those experiencing these circumstances are generally deserving of their suffering.
Without getting into specifics, I would like to simply bring further attention to the idea that any individual's current life circumstances--positive or negative--are the result of forces far more complex than the actions of any single person, as we exist in complexly interrelated psychological, social, and bio/physiological systems. Previous external events beyond the control of any single individual frequently underlie what can appear on the surface to be circumstances resulting from individual decision-making.
I invite you to consider contributing some of your time or resources towards assisting those in your community who are suffering, without judgment.
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Thank you for your feedback. While I do think it is important to empower oneself and others to make healthy and responsible decisions, we must acknowledge that individual people are not independently responsible for the circumstances they face at any given time.



Judging People
I read your recent blog entry and could not agree more. I think many take an unwarranted luxury in presuming that their life circumstances could not turn in such a manner as to leave them devastated. I have particular disdain for the term "crack head." I believe it results in a caricature that allows people to forget or ignore that what is before them is a real human being . . . somebody's son or daughter, mother or father